What you need to do to get your life back.

What you need to do to get your life back.

Wasted your day today?

I was supposed to be on holiday for 2 weeks in July. I was supposed to be switching off and recharging my batteries. The slog of getting through each day, with my business, work, family and friends was getting on top of me and a few weeks in the sun was what The Caveman Doctor had ordered.

I packed my bags and disappeared on a plane to Barbados. Yes, I hit it big, Sun, Sea, Sand and lots and lots of sun beds. This was what I needed but I did not realise that I was not switching off.

It was about 8 days into the holiday that I realised that I was still actually working and had not actually relaxed. I don’t mean spending hours on my laptop and making calls but I was still in contact with the world and working on my business.

It was a conversation I was having on Linked-In, with a new contact arranging a meet for a potential TV show. I happen to mention that I was on a beach and was asked why I was on Linked-In instead of being in the sea. I laughed and ignored this comment for another day before I realised that they had a point to make.

The trouble was that I had my mobile with me and had told myself that I could be trusted. I took it to the beach so I could listen to music and as the hotel had a great Wi-Fi connection, I did not stop looking at the front screen and listening to the ‘pings’ of new messages and connections coming through.

I found myself sat on a sun lounger, sun glasses on, sun beating down and me with my phone in my hand scrolling through ‘notifications’ every time the phone went ‘ping’. Just like most people my phone sounds constantly with a little note, tune or ting, each telling me a different notification coming through. My battery on my phone was only lasting about 8 hours because I was on it constantly – “This was not what I had signed up for!”

At the end of day 10, I was sat on the bed, plugging in the phone again and it was then that the penny dropped. What was I doing, I was glued to my phone and not enjoying my holiday!

The fix

I made an instant decision to switch off the notifications. I knew that most notifications are read within 5 seconds of being received on a phone, I was one of those statistics. They all went off and when I saw all the red dots against the settings, I felt instant relief.

The last 4 days of my holiday were what I needed, peace, quiet, relaxation and no pings!

Returning home, I considered turning back on the pings, but decided against allowing them to rule my life again. All my social media pings have remained off, only emails are now allowed to tell me that I have something new to look at.

Being back from my holiday, I can now say that I have back the control of my life and my phone is no longer a pull on my ear. I have more time, less distraction and I no longer have this need to be in possession on my phone.

Most people do not realise how captivating their phone can be and if you want to experience a different daily feel, just try switching off your notifications to you social media accounts and see what happens. For me it has been not only a positive experience but a liberating one as well.

Need to know how

If you need to know how to do this for;

iPhone’s https://www.imore.com/how-manage-notifications-iphone-and-ipad

Samsung http://www.techadvisor.co.uk/how-to/google-android/how-turn-off-lock-screen-notifications-on-samsung-smartphones-3607613/

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Speaking at the Alarm Conference 2017

June 2017 came around really fast! We mean really, really fast.

It was October 2016 and we were informed that the Alarm Conference would like The Caveman to speak at their annual conference held at the University of Manchester in June the next year. Everything was agreed, hotels and parking booked and then the social media and publicity was agreed completed. #alarmrisk2017

caveman feedbackThen before we knew it we were driving up to Manchester to deliver a “bluelight stress” talk as the Caveman Speaker.

The organisers were fantastic, they put on a do the evening before the start of the conference and looked after all their delegates. The Caveman also went along and started networking and entertaining the visitors.

Making some new friends and introducing ‘The Caveman’ to the group was a lot of fun. We made a definite impression, with loads of people asking if they could change their original choice and instead they now wanted to come to The Caveman talk instead.

It was a brilliant evening and the organisers were there to support and push the conference agenda. The end of the night came too soon, but final checks on the talk needed to be done before getting some beauty sleep.

The following day visiting the conference as a delegate, was a name badge shouting “SPEAKER” to anyone who looked, brought some smiles and a great start to conversations.

Gerald Ashley kindly kicked off the conference with his keynote speech and we could see the delegates were clearly getting into the conference. There was more networking, coffee, biscuits and more seminars and talks to listen to.

We got to lunchtime quickly and then it was time, when the Caveman took control! The bluelight stress talk was planned and had been practised and we were ready to rock!

Delegates arrived and the talk began, with one change to the request by the chaperone – “keep your phone on, and we want you to Tweet!” The reason? Well there was a bottle of wine on offer by the conference for the best tweet and we wanted the winner to be sat in the room!

The talk went as rehearsed with a quick intro and the first question put to the room “What makes humans different to animals?” Loads of great answers and humour to be had.

The talk was in full flow, loads of engagement by the room, laughter and “wow’s” were heard. Before we knew it, the hour was up and people were clapping.

The end of the hour saw people queuing up to speak to The Caveman and to take his business card. Hand shakes and thanks galore!

absolutely fantastic session

That was it, leaving the room and joining the conference hall again saw people asking The Caveman if he can be booked for other seminars and conferences before the journey home.

If you want the Caveman to give a talk at your meeting, conference or event drop him a line.

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